United We Stand Strong, Divided We Fall Short Always of True Sisterhood

I wrote this blog to mentally prepare myself for my next show. One of my favorite topics to discuss is The Bond between Sisters. I don't mean "Sistahs", I mean all women of all races and nationalities. There was a time when women would come together and stand strong for one another. Take the time when women were fighting for our rights to vote, we fought together. Let a Woman's child go missing and we are all United to help.
Exactly when did that end? What happened and how do we get it back?
I watch women all the time criticize the next woman simply becasue she doesn't like her. I see women all the time calling each other every name but the one given to them by their parents. Why? Out of jealousy that they would never admit to. Is it really that serious? We sleep with each other's men but we are ready to fight when someone does it to us. And to make ourselves feel better we somehow blame that woman at home for not knowing how to keep her man. Don't get me wrong, you can't help who you love but don't make disrespect that woman to help yourself sleep at night (or sleep with her man), just be real with why you are doing it and have some class to your ass.
Instead of being there for one another we judge each other's situations as if we have never been in them situations ourselves. Or like we are to good, too pretty or too smart to be in those situations. (I actually heard someone say that and that annoyed the hell out of me) We talk behind each other's backs like cowards. We got the opposite sex making us "respect the game". Exactly what game are we supposed to be playing again? Someone please remind me. Ladies you sound stupid playing a man's game. You sound ridiculous with your "my nigga this" and with your foul mouths calling your female friends "your Bitch". When did being a lady mean that you dress like a man, talk like a man and then demand to be treated like a lady? When did being someone's friend mean you smile in their face and talk shit about them when they are not around? When did being a women mean you going toe to toe with a man over some BS other than fighting for your life? When did being a lady mean you going to going to the club every weekend just to meet another Fuck? Since you rely on the playing by the man's rules and what he thinks of you, ask a man what his idea of a "lady" and a "bitch" is and see what he says. Now you don't have to agree with this but you answer that same question and then look in the mirror and tell me what you represent.
I want nothing more than to see my Sisters rise about the BS of knocking each other down. In REAL Sisterhood, when you are down your Sisters are there to help you up. I can't wait to see the day when women rule the world. Be a believer and be your Sister's Keeper. Believe it or not, it all has to do with your love for yourself. When you have that LOVE for you then you won't have it in you to hate another.
My idea of Sisterhood is this: I got your back always, whether you need it or not. A true Sister doesn't just check on you when something happens. A real Sister doesn't say call if you need anything and then sit back and wait for the call, she will call you and check on you if she hasn't heard from you. Sisterhood is a bond and it is knowing that no matter what, you have a support group full of women that knows your struggles first hand. Why can we turn to a man before we can turn to each other?
How do we become Sisters once again. Can we or am I just living a pipe dream? United we will stand Strong and Divided we will fall short Always of True Sisterhood.

What Hinders You?

Take a minute to think about what hinders you from getting all the things you want out of life. Most people will come up with one or more of the following reasons: I can't find the time, my kids, I don't have the money, I don't know where to start, I'm afraid to fail... Whatever your reason for NOT making it happen is just an excuse. If you can find the time to party, hang out, go to dinner or whatever those extracurricular activities you get into, then you can find the time to make your dreams come true. You get up everyday for work and go hard for your job, why not go hard for yourself? You making everybody rich but you.. Take the first step, even if its a small step TAKE IT... Don't be afraid to fail. The only way to fail is if you don't try. As long as you give you all then you are already succeeding. Even it doesn't work the first time, don't go home, go harder and evaluate why it didn't work. Stay on it and make it work... Let's Go. We all can be successful if we REALLY want to. See you at the top.

When Soul meets Mate

When your soul meets its mate, your hearts dance with each other from the very first date.
Same beat same forum, same rhythm same song.
Nothing in the universe can change a feeling so strong. Everything feels right and nothing feels wrong.
Two souls colliding to form a masterpiece, two souls become one in a perfect harmony.
Time won't have to tell, cuz the souls are automatically united. Separation is not optional, no matter how much you fight it.
One starts a sentence and the other finishes the thought. Minds naturally in sync cuz some things just can't be taught.
Hearts beats on one accord, ideally in tuned and certainly without fault.
Look into their eyes, into the soul of your mate; The soul that your soul fell in love with .. on the first date.

Some people will never find their soul mates because the souls must find each other, but when they do find each other learn to recognize it and cherish them because you only get one.

The Touch Of Love

When you touch me it seems as though the world is at peace, and anything I worry about becomes deceased. The time when I was resting and you gently moved the hair from my brow, I think about it now and it makes me smile. I sit at my desk and diligently work, I remember when you kissed me down there and my insides jerk. The touch of love is like being touched by an Angel, it sends chills up your spine and makes the disabled feel enabled. I close my eyes and kiss your image, touch your body, taste your spillage. Ummmm The real touch of love leaves you craving all the time, getting better with time like a bottle of wine. I love to be touched, only by you. You caress me gently like a fragile jewel. Constant thoughts of you rubbing my neck, kissing my back with the softest pecks. I’m in deep anticipation of the next time our skin will touch, to be touched by my Angel…You are the touch of Love..

The Power of Words

Sticks and Stones (yadda yadda). People can say what they want (yadda yadda)... The truth that most won't admit is that words have a lot of control over our emotions. If this weren't true then you wouldn't be on FB, Myspace or your Blog telling the world about what someone had the nerve to say. No matter how you word it, be it in a prayer for them or a good cussing out, those words effected your emotions somehow some way.
People are allowed to say and write things with no regards to how other people's feelings and you are expected to "let it go" or "ignore" it. Or what about the kids out there cussing up a storm and have no idea what they look like doing so?

I post things on FB all the time. Most are thought provoking topics to motivate those that need them. I learned that you have to be very careful of the things you put up because there are those searching for motivation to give them that push or to help them through a trying situation. I love to inspire and motivate, so when I get that inbox or that comment that says thank you, those two words move me and motivate me to go harder or to reach further. The power of words is Powerful.
While some will turn their noses up to this blog, I know there are some that will take heed and choose their word wisely when putting them out there for the world to hear and see.
These are the negative and positive effects of the power of words. While they can lift you up they can also break you down and make you feel so small.

Perfectly Imperfect

I am perfectly imperfect. I never claim to be any better than any one else. It is and has always been my prayer that everyone around me lives up to their true potential.
The day we stop selling ourselves short, is the day that we all become that much closer to understanding who we are and what we were put here to do. Anything is possible so if you want it then make it happen. You can't fail at anything when you put your all into it. It may not happen the way you expect but it will happen the way its supposed to. Stop making excuses and make moves. Where there's a will there's a way.
My goal in life is to be happy and to live up to my fullest potential.
Help someone along because many are lost and need guidance. No one is to judge the next person because we are all perfectly imperfect.

MY DAILY OM

For better or worse, many people have been raised to believe that communicating in an honest and open way will not get them what they want. They have learned, instead, to play mind games or go on power trips in the service of their ego’s agenda. Like all relationships and situations in our lives, we must look within for both the problem and the solution. Reacting to the situation by getting upset will only make things worse. Only by pulling back and digging within us can we begin to see what has hooked us into the mess in the first place. We will most likely find unprocessed emotions. The more we are able to do this, the less we will be bothered by other people’s dramas. Whenever people come into our lives, they have come for a reason, to show us something about ourselves that we have not been able to see. They can come and stay for 20 days or 20 years. When people try to hook us into their patterns with mind games and power trips, we can remind ourselves that there is a lesson to be learned here. This takes the focus off the person you think is the problem and puts it back on us, giving us the opportunity to change the situation from the inside out rather trying to change someone else.

Simple but Deep Thoughts of Me

I am simple. Simple in the sense that I do not require a lot (just attention). But not simple in the sense that I am dumb or stupid. I am like a sponge because I soak up so much knowledge. I don’t use big words when I speak but trust me when I tell you that I am intelligent. I am driven, not only by the haters but by the lovers. I don’t lose in anything. I may not always come in first place but I put my best in all that I do; how could you ever lose in doing that? It’s wonderful to know that you touch people’s hearts and people’s lives, but I want to feel the love that I make everyone else around me feel. I promise myself success and I will be nothing but successful. I will not tolerate disrespect from anyone. Funny thing is I let people THINK they are getting over because that rope is very long and they will eventually hang themselves. I will never stop being me but I will eventually stop being who I am to other people.
I have a whole lot going through my mind today. And I can go on and on. But the basis for me writing this is to say this. Treat people the way you expect them to treat you (100% across the board). Be real to yourself because in doing that you are being real to other’s as well. Don’t be quick to judge people it just reflects on who you are as a person. Be a person of your word always.
I am simple but if you really know me then you already knew that.

STAY FOCUSED

As wonderful as it is to know that you are everything to everybody, sometimes you must take a second, stand back and reevaluate what you are to yourself and what others are to you. The week that this blog was written I made a conscious decision to remove myself from the distraction of the internet. I spend way too much time of Facebook. That time should be spent writing, researching, designing, doing what I'm supposed to be doing.
It is important to always remember that YOU are responsible for YOUR happiness, YOUR emotions, YOUR success and YOUR downfall. Never allow anyone or anything to come into your life and take over. People ask me why I am so guarded at times and its simply because the wall doesn't come down until someone helps me take it down, one brick at a time. If you want to be happy, make yourself happy. If you want to be respected, try respecting yourself first. If you want to succeed in life, try working harder and playing less. YOU are YOUR priority and YOU are responsible for YOU. Wtop blaming shit on other people. Stay focused on what's most important and that's YOU!!