For better or worse, many people have been raised to believe that communicating in an honest and open way will not get them what they want. They have learned, instead, to play mind games or go on power trips in the service of their ego’s agenda. Like all relationships and situations in our lives, we must look within for both the problem and the solution. Reacting to the situation by getting upset will only make things worse. Only by pulling back and digging within us can we begin to see what has hooked us into the mess in the first place. We will most likely find unprocessed emotions. The more we are able to do this, the less we will be bothered by other people’s dramas. Whenever people come into our lives, they have come for a reason, to show us something about ourselves that we have not been able to see. They can come and stay for 20 days or 20 years. When people try to hook us into their patterns with mind games and power trips, we can remind ourselves that there is a lesson to be learned here. This takes the focus off the person you think is the problem and puts it back on us, giving us the opportunity to change the situation from the inside out rather trying to change someone else.
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